Society teaches you to escape pain
“Everybody has the right to live without pain…” I hear a lot of people actually believe this, and some even become angry when pain is hitting them, so they start to blame someone, the system or something. I have to agree though, it sounds really nice to not have pain. Like a slogan of a politician on a bilboard. But I think this is a problematic illusionary believe. First of all, the right to anything creates an illusion of false hope. Everybody will have pain. But secondly, and more important is the realisation that pain is not necessary a bad thing. ‘There is no good without the bad’. Maybe this is really hard to believe for some. Especially while you experience pain, or when you have not processed bad emotions yet. I can understand this. So it completely understandable to first try to escape the pain.
So it makes sense that we as a civilisation constantly try to move away from pain. We build safety margins inside safety margins, with the idea that least amount of pain will overcome us. We use painkillers for everything. Even in discussions I see a trend that you are allowed less and less, because your opinion might hurt other people. Even if your opinion is purely based on facts, things can be “disrespect-full” or “polarising”.
One could argue that this trend is all fine, that it’s towards a ‘better life’ with less pain. But I do not believe that. First of all, I always believed positive and negative are a scale, that balances itself out. A person with a life without pain cannot handle a small part of the pain that someone with a painful life has. Besides this scale, I don’t see where search for life without pain could end. There are already sooo much safety nets, but they are never enough. The last 40 years politicians keep adding them. At the coast of freedom, which is also causing pain for others. There is no end. We kept adding margins, and the global pain even seems to worsen.
Consciousness can be controlled and moved
I know for sure, based on a simple test, you and me are able to ‘move’ consciousness on everything we want to focus on. Try it yourself. Pretent like you are holding an invisible tennisbal inside your hand. Then focus on this space where this imaginary ball is. Create the ball with your consciousness. If you would ‘feel’ or ‘see’ what you are doing, you would notice that your consciousness is (mostly) there, in your hand. It has moved away from you brain, or whatever you where doing, to you hand. If you fully practice this, you can even forget about everything else, and only realise the empty space inside your hand. This proves that consciousness is a sort of ‘field’. A ‘something’ that you and me are able to control, steer and form. Even grow and shrink. You can do this, at least for a few seconds. When you try this the first times you will also notice that your consciousness is fast, instantly drawn back to your thoughts, emotions or things that happen around you. This duration, or strength to focus is something you can practice with mindfulness-meditation.
Order is positive, disorder is negative
The difference between order and disorder. Order is +, positive, beautiful, alive, harmonious. How can I say this? Let me explain with a few arguments.
First of all, do you know the resonance experiments with sand or grains? some call them ‘sand flowers’. Here is video example. You can see, the more in-tune, the more beautiful the pattern is. The higher the frequency, the more complex the patterns gets. In between harmonious – out of tune – frequencies the patterns get destroyed, or disordered. In-tune is commonly conceived as a positive, nice sound. Out of tune can be awful.
I know what you think: “this is all very cute and nice”. But it does not end with sand and patterns.
I had this experience once, when I smoked some weed and was laying on bed after it, I heard this most terrible and awful sound. It sounded like I was grinding my teeth agains a un-sharped rusted saw, that was slowly sawing in my teeth. It resonated though my whole head. It was so hard, it was driving me crazy. I was trying not to listen to it, not to hear it, ignoring it. I tried to put on some music, but this sound was so luid that I dit not really heard the music anyway. Besides I could not focus on the music. I starting to resist to it in my whole body, but I could not ignore it. I started to feel sick. The noice was not going away, and the more I tried to escape, the more it started to hurt. Then I realised that I was not able to escape the sound, so I tried to listen to it. To accept it for what it was. First when I tried, the noice was even getting worse fast. But I felt that I had no choice. So I tried again, completely surrendered to it, relaxing into it. Slowly the noice changed. Well, the noice dit not really change, but somehow my perception of the noice changed. I relaxed more into it. And suddenly I heard the most beautiful sound I ever heard. A super high pitch, soft, profound, and so powerful, that I started to cry. I felt like my body was opening, and slowly started to resonate to this amazing sound. I could completely relax into it. My heard was unleashing tention, and the sound was even more amazing. I felt the best feelings ever. So much love. It felt like this was the pure sound of love.
How was it possible this amazing bad noice was transformed into the most beautiful sound ever? I felt that it was not the sound that changed, but my body, my tension towards it. Before I was tense and stressed. But because I ‘opened’ my body it was able to resonate on it, instead of fighting it.
I am telling you this story because I learned that day that being open, relaxt, will let you resonate. This can and will completely change the way you feel. Of course I was stoned, so is it real? I bought the weed on the streets in Playa del Carmen in Mexico, so maybe not the best place and best weed. But after this lesson, I tried more often to open my heard (ooh man, I would have never expected me to write these type of sentences 10 years ago…). But it’s true, it really works. It’s like relaxing into the moment. Like accepting how I feel. Instantly I will feel a bit better. I think the weed increased the good and the bad feelings, but its the same concept when I am sober. Let go of tention in your whole body, especially the heart or stomach area.
So this whole story was to make a point. Positive vibes sound pure. Negative vibes sound like disorder.
The link between these random texts above
So I have written about a few things in this article
- Society teaches you to escape pain
- Consciousness can be controlled and moved
- Order is positive, disorder is negative
If you believe in ‘the whole spiritual thing’, you might believe that consciousness is a more pure ‘godly part’ about you and me. Let assume for a second this is true. If so, this consciousness should be even ‘above’ matter. I mean, if it is really godly, it has created this thing we call matter, and therefore it is above matter. Besides this, it definitely possible to change the way you feel by purely change the consciousness perception of what is happening. So we can, even if you don’t believe in this spiritual thing, conclude that you have certain control over feelings. Maybe you don’t believe the ‘matter’ part, but only the feeling part. Thats fine of course.
So, everyone probably has heart about ‘healers’. I’m am not talking about science based (at least, we are not there yet..) medics, but more ‘spiritual’ healers. I am not sure about this yet (since there are a lof of fake stories), but I think there is a pattern in the way how they heal people. I think they heal people by focussing their consciousness for a while on a painfully place in a subjects body. This focus of consciousness, if in a positive vibe, should create a more in-tune vibration of energy flows. Like shown above, the harmoniousness in-tune vibration has a stronger form.
So again, maybe you don’t believe in the changing ‘matter’ part (do think about the power of placebo effect) but then try with emotions first. But think about this also in the context of the whole society. In this context, society can heal itself by not trying to go away from pain, but go into it. Do not resist to fear and pain, but accept it, use it, and even learn to love it. Then, the whole world can will move into the right direction. At least, thats what i think.
I will try and learn this skill someday, but I am really curious what your experience with this is! Let me know in the comments below!